Refresh Your Commitment & Take the Risk to Be Authentic

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What could be riskier than diving out of an airplane or climbing a glacier-covered peak or accelerating a race car into a curve at the Indy 500?

For one person it might be quitting a secure, well-paying job to go back to school. For another, it could be deciding to leave a marriage after 18 years or reporting that the company they work for is endangering the environment or people’s lives.

Though it may not appear so at first glance, psychological risks that summon us to put our personal values and beliefs on the line may ultimately feel more dangerous than those of physical derring-do. Yet these are the challenges that we are asked to face time and again if we are to continue to grow as individuals.

Each time we take a risk that contributes to our personal growth or enhances our self-esteem or enriches our lives, we make the choice to hit the refresh button, stretch ourselves, knowing there are no guarantees and chancing possible failure.

Growth-producing risks generally fall into three categories.

Renew Your Commitment to Taking Self-Improvement Risks

These are the risks you take when you want to get ahead, learn something new or make a distant dream a reality. You take on the venture with hopes of enriching your life. Maybe you want to change careers, or take singing lessons, or learn to speak French. On one side of the risk is the person you are and, on the other, the person you want to become.

Renew Your Willingness to Lean Towards Emotional Commitment

All commitment risks have emotional stakes whether you pledge yourself to a person or a relationship or to a cause, a career, or a value. According to Joseph Ilardo, author of Risk-Taking for Personal Growth, if you avoid making emotional commitments, you all but guarantee that your emotional growth will be stunted.

Renew Your Desire to Speak Your Truth, Take the Risk of Self-Disclosure

Communication risks fall into the category of self-disclosure. Anytime you tell someone how you really feel you’re taking the chance of self-disclosure. When you open up to others and reveal who you really are, how you feel and what you want and need, you make yourself vulnerable. It is impossible to be assertive without doing so.

All risks carry with them the possibility of failure. Often significant sacrifices must be made before any real benefits are realized. Routines may have to change; the familiar may have to be released. You may feel rejected or humiliated. In the case of commitment to a value, personal safety may be in danger. Consider those who stand up for what they believe in or put their own health and well-being on the line in the name of a cause. Challenging yourself is often the key to personal growth and development.

Are you a risk-taker? Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Do you hold yourself accountable for where you are or are you less honest with yourself, preferring instead to find fault with someone else. Do you avoid being honest yourself about your role?
  • Do you accept less than what you should because you’re afraid to speak up? Preferring instead to wait for someone to notice that you are worthy of something more?
  • Do you have difficulty making emotional commitments to others? Do you lean in to the discomfort of the challenges that are inevitably part of your human experience or do you avoid your emotions and those of the ones you love at all costs?
  • Do you make up excuses that stop you from taking advantage of opportunities for self-improvement? For continuously growing and learning?
  • Does desire for approval drive most everything you do at work, with your family, with friends?

A “yes” answer to these questions indicates a reluctance to take risks, which may mean you tend to “play it safe” and reject change.

Consider this: to fulfill your potential, to discover your real self and live an authentic life, you must take risks. And while security may appear to be the absence of change, the only genuine security lies in taking risks.

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